I was referred to as being passive-aggressive...ME?

One of my kids is not a nice person. I mean she is just not pleasant. She always has something really hateful to say and is insanely judgemental. Twelfth grader. I am very sarcastic...I am self-actualized and know who I am in real life so I can admit this about myself. So, she says that she wants to go to the bathroom. This is after she has been down right hostile to a nerdy boy in the class. I told her no, BUT that I would write her a pass to the lost and found to find a better attitude. Now, I don't see this is passive-aggressive. I feel like it was very direct. At any rate, I thought it was funny to be referred to as passive-agressive...that's a new one :)